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I’m Mrs. MD, but please call me Rad Wife. I’m a journalist turned at-home mom who is married to a radiology resident. When we first started dating, he was a car salesman waiting to hear if he’d been accepted into medical school. When he received the big news that he was “in,” we celebrated. I love my husband who we will call Dr. McDreamy for whom he is, not what he does, but I do remember thinking, “Wow! I’m marrying a budding doctor! How dreamy.”

Foolish, foolish woman!

Truth is, my marriage has been dreamy in many ways. Dr. McDreamy is a great catch. He’s the man God wanted me to marry. But the whole doctor thing, well, I suppose it will one day be icing on the cake, but right now it’s just some eggs and flour and maybe some Splenda  (certainly not real sugar). And I had absolutely no idea what I was in for when I said “I do” to a budding doc.

In other words, it’s been a long journey.

Don’t get me wrong: I know there’s light at the end of the tunnel and that we are infinitely blessed to have a happy present (including two lovely, little girls and a mini van to boot) and an even brighter future. But that doesn’t mean I don’t sometimes get impatient. After all, I married my dearly beloved after his first year of medical school more than six years ago and he is still training. 

 Since that fateful day when Dr. McDreamy started his journey to becoming a physician by tearing open his acceptance letter to med school, I’ve realized that marrying an aspiring physician was neither a glorious gamble or a dream turned reality. (Honestly, in my dreams I usually imagined myself marrying a musician. I always had a thing for musicians, not preppy guys strutting their stuff in white coats stained with blood, feces, and goodness knows what else.) I fell in love with my husband, not some brilliant doctor (although like most wives, I do think he is brilliant).

When I consider the big picture – our commitment to each other and our desire to have a big family – the initials behind his name make little difference. At the end of a long post-call day, I’m just an ordinary wife who happened to fall in love with someone who just happens to want to be a doctor.

Still, anyone who is married to a med student, resident, and/or practicing physician knows that a medical marriage presents us with a unique set of challenges – from the neverending training process to having a husband deal with life and death issues on a daily basis. Talk about job stress!

That’s why I started this blog and invited several other incredible women who also happen to be married to med students, residents, or doctors to share their insight. Our goal is to offer support to others living a medical marriage, to make you laugh when you want to cry, to remind us all how truly lucky we are to have hard-working husbands.

In addition, we wanted to provide a forum for all your questions about crazy things like the Match process, fellowships (to do or not to do?), the interview process for residency as well as jobs, what it’s like when you’re husband is finally a real (as in practicing) doctor, how to get gross stains out of gleaming white coats, and whatever else is on your mind. I also want to give others who aren’t in a medical marriage a glimpse into the lives of the women who support them. 

Please take a look at our contributors. Each has a different perspective to share, but what we all have in common is a love for our husbands – even when they have to work really long hours, leave dirty scrubs on the carpet, and our lives sometimes seem like they’re at the mercy of a pager.

We want this to be an interactive forum, so we’ll hope you’ll help spread the word about us to other medical wives you know and that you’ll consider dropping us a line. Leave a comment or email us at MrsMDblog@gmail.com. Share your wisdom, anecdotes, encouragement, and advice. And let us know what you’d like to see on this blog. 

Thanks for sharing your medical marriages with us!





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